The Way to Happiness in Africa

The Way to Happiness in Africa The Way to Happiness is a non-religious moral code based common sense

25/04/2026

16. Be Industrious

22/04/2026

LOVE AND HELP CHILDREN


"Last night, I sat on the balcony watching my son play in the yard. Suddenly, I realized something that made me pause and cry.

This little boy, running after a ball with a huge smile on his face, is our future. Not just mine as a father, but all of ours. And when I look at the world we're raising our children in today - my heart aches.

It's like throwing a small cub into a tiger's cage. Our world is complex, difficult, sometimes cruel. Our children need much more than just food, clothes, and toys. They need us - our hearts, our time, our guidance.

I remember myself as a child. How many times I just wanted someone to listen, really listen. Not to tell me what to do, not to give me another computer game - just to be there for me.

Today, watching my son grow up, I understand that my role is not just to be a father. My role is to be a friend. To listen when he tells me about his day, even when I'm tired.

To play soccer with him, even when I have a thousand other things to do. To be there when he falls, and also - perhaps most importantly - to let him get up on his own.

Because in the end, the greatest gift we can give our children isn't another toy or another after-school activity. The greatest gift is teaching them to be good, independent, and strong human beings. Those who know how to stand up for themselves, but also how to extend a helping hand to others.

So tonight, sitting on the balcony, I made myself a promise: to be there for him. Really there. Because maybe I can't change the whole world, but I can change his world.

And maybe, just maybe, if we all do this - we can build a better future. One child, one hug, one moment of listening at a time.

Because in the end, our children are not just our future.
They are our present. And they deserve all the love in the world.

And when we love and help our children, we're not just building them a better future - we're paving the way to happiness, theirs and ours."

IN MANY SCHOOLS PARENT'S ARE BEING BULLIED INTO MEDICATING THEIR CHILDREN I want my child back...As the scho...
12/01/2026

IN MANY SCHOOLS PARENT'S ARE BEING BULLIED INTO MEDICATING THEIR CHILDREN


I want my child back...
As the school gates open this week, I am haunted by a memory from last year. My son’s teacher told me he was "too much." She said, "If he doesn't start Ritalin, he won't cope, and we can’t keep him in class."

I was terrified as a parent. I wanted him to succeed, so I signed the forms. I didn't know I was signing away his personality. Within weeks, my vibrant boy was a "zombie"—no appetite, no laughter, just a blank stare. The school was happy because he was "quiet," but as a mother, I was grieving for a child who was still sitting right in front of me.

WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT THE ADHD SYNDICATE.
In many of our schools, parents are being bullied into medicating children just to make classroom management easier.

KNOW YOUR RIGHTS:
Under the SA Schools Act, a school cannot exclude your child for refusing psychiatric medication. You have the right too Informed Consent—that means being told the real risks, not just the "benefits." and also the alternatives treatments once test have been done. Education is a right, not a medical procedure.

Let’s protect our children’s futures this year. Don't sign away their spark. Ask for medical proof, not opinion.


THE WAY TO HAPPINESS AT RIDE JOBURG What an incredible day connecting with the community at the 15th anniversary of...
16/09/2025

THE WAY TO HAPPINESS AT RIDE JOBURG


What an incredible day connecting with the community at the 15th anniversary of Ride Joburg! Our team had an amazing time at Kyalami Corner, sharing The Way to Happiness with hundreds of cyclists and supporters.

From 6 AM to noon, we were right in the heart of the action, reaching people with our message of hope and inviting them to our upcoming Open House event. We're also excited about the new connections we made and the potential for future partnerships.

A huge thank you to everyone who stopped by and showed their support!

ARE YOU TIRED OF CRIME, VIOLENCE, DISHONESTY AND INSECURITY ✨ You can change that! Create your own custom-cover The ...
14/09/2025

ARE YOU TIRED OF CRIME, VIOLENCE, DISHONESTY AND INSECURITY ✨


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04/02/2025

PRECEPT #4. LOVE AND HELP CHILDREN.


Today’s children will become tomorrow’s civilization. Bringing a child into the world today is a little bit like dropping one into a tiger’s cage. Children can’t handle their environment and they have no real resources. They need love and help to make it.

It is a delicate problem to discuss. There are almost as many theories on how to raise a child or not raise him as there are parents. Yet if one does it wrong much grief can result and one may even complicate his or her own later years. Some try to raise children the way they were themselves raised, others attempt the exact opposite, many hold to an idea that children should just be let grow on their own.

None of these guarantee success. The last method is based on a materialistic idea that the development of the child parallels the evolutionary history of the race; that in some magical way, unexplained, the “nerves” of the child will “ripen” as he or she grows older and the result will be a moral, well-behaving adult.

Although the theory is disproven with ease—simply by noticing the large criminal population whose nerves somehow did not ripen—it is a lazy way to raise children and achieves some popularity. It doesn’t take care of your civilization’s future or your older years.

A child is a little bit like a blank slate. If you write the wrong things on it, it will say the wrong things. But, unlike a slate, a child can begin to do the writing: the child tends to write what has been written already. The problem is complicated by the fact that, while most children are capable of great decency, a few are born insane and, today, some are even born as drug addicts: but such cases are an unusual few.

It does no good just to try to “buy” the child with an overwhelm of toys and possessions or to smother and protect the child: the result can be pretty awful.

One has to make up his mind what he is trying to get the child to become: this is modified by several things:

(a) what the child basically can become due to inherent make-up and potential.
(b) what the child really wants to become.
(c) what one wants the child to become.
(d) the resources available.

But remember that whatever these all add up to, the child will not survive well unless he or she eventually becomes self-reliant and very moral. Otherwise the end product is likely to be a liability to everyone including the child.

Whatever one’s affection for the child, remember that the child cannot survive well in the long run if he or she does not have his or her feet put on the way to survival. It will be no accident if the child goes wrong: the contemporary society is tailor-made for a child’s failure.

It will help enormously if you obtain a child’s understanding of and agreement to follow the precepts contained in this book.

What does have a workability is simply to try to be the child’s friend. It is certainly true that a child needs friends. Try to find out what a child’s problem really is and, without crushing their own solutions, try to help solve them. Observe them—and this applies even to babies. Listen to what children tell you about their lives. Let them help—if you don’t, they become overwhelmed with a sense of obligation which they then must repress.

It will help the child enormously if you obtain understanding of and agreement to this way to happiness and get him or her to follow it. It could have an enormous effect on the child’s survival—and yours.

A child factually does not do well without love. Most children have an abundance of it to return.

"The way to happiness
has on its route the loving and
the helping of children from babyhood
to the brink of adult life".

ON LOVE, LOYALTY AND THE CHOICES THAT SHAPE OUR LIVES I want to tell you about a moving conversation I had y...
15/01/2025

ON LOVE, LOYALTY AND THE CHOICES THAT SHAPE OUR LIVES


I want to tell you about a moving conversation I had yesterday with a close friend. We were sitting in a neighborhood café when she suddenly burst into tears.

"I don't know who I am anymore," she whispered. "I thought it would be fun to be 'free', 'uncommitted'. But every parallel relationship I maintained only deepened the hole in my heart. I lost the trust of my husband, my children, and my extended family. I destroyed something that took 15 years to build."

I watched her hands trembling around the cold coffee cup, thinking about the heavy price we all - she, her husband, the children - pay for moments of recklessness.

"You know what hurts the most?" she continued, "My 13-year-old daughter told me yesterday - 'Mom, how will I know if I can believe in love?' That broke me."

When we parted, she said something that stuck with me: "I wish I had understood earlier that loyalty isn't chains - it's the foundation on which we build trust, family, and true love."

I watched her walk away, thinking how brave it was of her to share, to take responsibility, and try to rebuild. Because in the end, true happiness isn't found in fleeting moments, but in our ability to build something deep, stable, and real with the one person we've chosen.

What do you think? In an age where "everything is possible," do we sometimes forget the value of loyalty? 🤔

Rule #3: DON'T BE PROMISCUOUS on the way to happiness.

15/01/2025

PRECEPT #3 | DON’T BE PROMISCUOUS


S*x is the means by which the race projects itself into the future through children and the family. A lot of pleasure and happiness can come from s*x: nature intended it that way so the race would go on. But, misused or abused, it carries with it heavy penalties and punishments: nature seems to have intended it that way also.

3-1. Be faithful to your s*xual partner.

Unfaithfulness on the part of a s*xual partner can heavily reduce one’s survival. History and the newspapers carry floods of instances of the violence of human passions aroused by unfaithfulness. “Guilt” is the milder evil. Jealousy and vengeance are the greater monsters: one never knows when they will cease to sleep. It is all very well to speak of “being civilized” and “uninhibited” and “understanding”; no talk will mend ruined lives. A “feeling of guilt” is nowhere near as sharp as a knife in the back or ground glass in the soup.

Additionally, there is the question of health. If you do not insist upon faithfulness from a s*xual partner, you lay yourself open to disease. For a very brief period, it was said that s*xual diseases were all under control. This is not now the case, if it ever was. Incurable strains of such diseases now exist.

The problems of s*xual misbehavior are not new. The powerful religion of Buddhism in India vanished from there in the seventh century. According to its own historians, the cause was s*xual promiscuity in its monasteries. More modernly, when s*xual promiscuity becomes prevalent in an organization, commercial or otherwise, the organization can be seen to fail. No matter how civilized their discussions about it, families shatter in the face of unfaithfulness.

The urge of the moment can become the sorrow of a lifetime. Impress those around you with that and safeguard your own health and pleasure.

S*x is a big step on the way to happiness and joy. There is nothing wrong with it if it is followed with faithfulness
and decency.

SOMETIMES LIFE GIVES US A SECOND CHANCE I wanted to share with you a story I received today from Vusi, a veteran t...
08/01/2025

SOMETIMES LIFE GIVES US A SECOND CHANCE


I wanted to share with you a story I received today from Vusi, a veteran taxi driver who picked me up for a short ride that turned into a soul-stirring conversation.

"I was a drunk for 15 years," he opened with surprising honesty. "I thought alcohol helped me be more sociable, more confident. The truth? It only blurred my life."

The breaking point came when his 7-year-old daughter refused to let him take her to kindergarten. "Daddy, you scare me when you drink," she said. At that moment, he realized he wasn't truly there for her.

"Today I'm 10 years sober," he said with a smile that lit up the entire taxi. "My daughter is 17, excelling in high school. I remember every moment with her, every conversation, every hug. I'm finally *present* for real."

As I got out of the taxi, I realized I had received an important life lesson: sometimes what we think helps us feel better actually distances us from what truly matters - the ability to be fully present in the lives of the people we love.

Thank you, Vusi, for your brave sharing and for the reminder that there's always hope for change ❤️

"Be Temperate," this is the second rule that will take us on the way to happiness.

If you know a similar story? Share with me in the comments.

08/01/2025

PRECEPT 2 | BE TEMPERATE


2-1. DO NOT TAKE HARFUL DRUGS:
People who take drugs do not always see the real world in front of them. They are not really there. On a highway, in casual contact, in a home, they can be very dangerous to you. People mistakenly believe they “feel better” or “act better” or are “only happy” when on drugs. This is just another delusion. Sooner or later the drugs will destroy them physically. Discourage people from taking drugs. When they are doing so, encourage them to seek help in getting off of them.

2-2. DO NOT TAKE ALCHOL TO EXCESS:
People who take alcohol are not alert. It impairs their ability to react even when it seems to them they are more alert because of it. Alcohol has some medicinal value. It can be grossly overestimated. Don’t let anyone who has been drinking drive you in a car or fly you in a plane. Drinking can take lives in more ways than one. A little liquor goes a long way; don’t let too much of it wind up in unhappiness or death. Deter people from excessive drinking.

Observing the points above, one becomes more physically able
to enjoy life


Temperate Meaning: Temperate means mild, moderate. If you're a temperate person, you are calm, reasonable.


Temperate Synonym: temperate (adjective as in calm, moderate) Strongest matches. agreeable, levelheaded mild, pleasant restrained, sober.

How can you apply this precept in your life ?

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