04/02/2024
Unpopular and Controversial Observation:
We have reached a point where the flex for these young women is how much they can get a man to spend on a date. They don't realize that natural social adjustment (A neurological process) has now conditioned men to itemize the value of women based on preestablished assets that we view worthy of the money we have to spend to occupy the time and attention of any particular woman. We now see women as a bill or expense---something to reduce the amount of money we have. We now see you as an enemy of our progress. You come to take not add.
In other words, the commodification of men is the cultural and nuanced suggestion that the value of a man rests solely on his bank account. This cultural paradigm ignores other values, such as protection, emotional and spiritual covering and leadership, edification and empowerment (verbal affirmation and encouragement, environmental security, [she feels safe and secure to be her best self]), being the holder of the vision for the family, etc. When a man accepts this marginalized definition of who he is on a subconscious level, he places all his value in his money, which he then systematically protects and measures against loss (Ironically, from the very one who commodified him in the first place). For the man who has a sense of self, you are going to miss him altogether. Ladies, this is not really about money; if you aren't careful and become emotional, you will miss the entire message.
Because men are reasoners, we begin to measure the cost of encounters and relationships with women, whom we now view as bills and expenses (Remember, we are constantly being told what we must spend and where we have to take women to be accepted). For us, the value a woman brings into the equation has to match or exceed the demand for monetary expenditure. We also observe that we only have a 50 percent chance of any seriously committed relationship lasting and that when married, the woman is likely to leave with more than what she came with. As we age, we start to see this as a losing proposition. Now, the ones who buy into the commodification begin to use their money to manipulate and control situations instead of building lasting ones. It becomes a conquest. Those of us who know we are more than our annual income, simply check ourselves out of the game until someone with sense comes along. Even then, we need to be exposed to the value of that person, for it all to make sense.
Ladies, your beautiful face, curvaceous hips, and sexy lips are not enough to warrant a five-star dining experience. Just like our six-pack, and chisel features shouldn't be enough to get you into bed. Only men who are still trying to affirm themselves will throw money at something unproven just to say they could. Take time to get to know one another beyond the surface assets, and just maybe we will have fewer single-parent households, fewer divorces, and less chaos as a society. ~ Rick Wallace, Ph.D., Psy.D.
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