Breaking The Distance

25/11/2025

🇳🇱🇳🇱You have moved to Holland. How are you feeling?

❓The most asked question of the past week and of course a very relevant one.

🏝️A bit of context. When me (Marthe) and Tash met in Bali we made a five year plan in our first few weeks of dating lol. I was going to move to London first, live in England for a few years and then we move indefinitely to Holland after.

🇬🇧Low and behold we did not plan or think about covid, getting pregnant, moving to Margate and loving it, or campervan life.

🙃After six years in England we finally moved to Holland. And how do I feel now?

💜I am going to be super honest. It is a double feeling. I love being back with my friends who now have families and with my own family. I love how well organised Holland is, but sometimes it feels a bit too structured. I feel pressure to fit back into a mould I have outgrown.

🏡I do not want to buy a house, get a fixed full time job, put my child into nursery multiple times a week, or get 4 weeks holiday a year. There is nothing wrong with that life. It just does not fit me or my family.

🌷So what matters most is that I stay true to myself and our values. Yes I want to settle and ground. Yes I want more rhythm in our day to day life. And I also want the freedom to live somewhere else. I want to build my business so I can stay as remote as possible. I do not want a mortgage.

🇳🇱🇬🇧🚐I love Holland. I love England. I love travelling. They all bring their positives and their challenges. One is not better than the other. They are simply different.

🥂So here is to another big transition. I am going to enjoy living close to my family and friends. I want Sutton to learn the language and feel part of the culture. I want me and Tash to stay connected and adapt again as a couple.

💞Do we make life easy for ourselves? No, but it suits us and it is about finding contentment, resilience and freedom wherever we live.

✨Thank you for reading.

🇳🇱Ps. Any recommendations for places in Holland we should explore to live?
***rfamilylife

27/04/2025

12/03/2025

ONE MONTH UNTIL WE MOVE INTO A VAN! 😱
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In just 30 days, we’ll hand over the keys to our 4-bedroom house and step into a completely new way of living … full-time vanlife. Sometimes, it feels surreal. Other times, the to-do list is overwhelming, and we wonder how we’re actually going to do it. But we know this is the right path for us!
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This move is about more than just downsizing. It’s about rethinking what we truly need, questioning the idea that success is about having a big house and trusting our instincts. Society tells us that stability is a mortgage, a steady job, and a structured routine. But stability for us, is something else. It’s waking up with the sunrise in a new place, having time to create, explore, and live more intentionally.
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We are so excited but also SUPER nervous. There are still so many things to do, and the reality is setting in. But every time doubt creeps in, we remind ourselves why we’re doing this:
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✨ To simplify and focus on what truly matters
✨ To trade stuff for experiences
✨ To spend more time together, instead of just existing side by side
✨ To break free from the idea that life has to look a certain way
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The countdown is officially ON. In one month it will be our reality. No backup plan, just trust.
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Drop us a 🚐 in the comments if you plan to follow our journey. 🥰

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14/02/2025

Valentine’s Day is different when you’re in a Q***r relationship.
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For the last 6 years, we’ve shared our love and lives openly here, knowing how much that visibility matters. But today, we’re reminded how many in our community still can’t live their truth safely—how love that feels so natural for us is still seen as political, even dangerous, in too many places.
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Where can we go that’s safe? Will holding hands make us a target? Can we simply exist without our love being questioned or legislated away?
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If you’re in a heteros*xual, cisgender relationship, recognise your privilege, these are things you never have to consider. You don’t have to wonder if your love is legal where you live—or where you travel. You don’t live in fear that the next law will take away your right to marry, start a family, or just exist.
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For us, love isn’t just love. It’s courage. It’s resistance. It’s survival.
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So today, we celebrate us—because in a world that tries to erase us, we are still here. Still loving. Still fighting. Still unbreakable. And we’ll keep showing up, for those who can’t… yet.
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***rLove ***rCouples ***rRepresentation ”

25/12/2024

“Merry Christmas”
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21/11/2024

“The fight for justice is not a sprint, it’s a marathon”
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As Trans Awareness Week concludes with Trans Day of Remembrance on November 20th, let us carry its message forward. This is not just a week, it’s a lifelong commitment to building a better, safer world for trans people, especially in challenging times.
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As we approach a pivotal moment in the U.S. and also here in the UK, now more than ever, we must stand together, uplift trans voices, and strive to be better allies every single day.
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Follow inspiring trans voices like for insight, strength, and advocacy. Let’s commit to action, support, and love. Not just in November, but always. Together, we can make a difference.
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How are you being a trans ally?
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13/11/2024

This , starting on World Kindness Day, let’s confront the reality of what trans people face every day:
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Globally, over 375 trans and gender-diverse people were killed last year, and violence against trans women of color remains a heartbreaking crisis. In the U.S., more than half of trans people have experienced harassment, and nearly one in five have endured physical assault.
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With the election of Donald Trump as U.S. president, many in the trans community feel an increase in fear and vulnerability. Policies that affect LGBTQIA+ rights and safety are at risk, putting our trans family in even greater danger.
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It’s fitting that we begin this week focused on kindness—an essential reminder that empathy, love, and understanding are critical in supporting our trans family. Now, more than ever, we must come together to protect trans lives, speak up against hate, and stand by those who are most impacted. Reach out to the trans people in your life, make sure they feel seen, safe, and supported.
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Let’s use this week to amplify trans voices, stand against violence, and demand equality. We owe our trans friends, family, and community our love and protection.
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30/10/2024

“Leaning into the darker days together”
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We used to want to escape the chill, craving light and warmth year-round. But as we get older, there’s a new comfort in slowing down with the season. Research even shows our bodies naturally shift with less daylight, releasing more melatonin and urging us to rest more.
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In nature, everything has a rhythm; trees shed their leaves, animals hibernate, and humans too are wired to take things slower in winter. Instead of fighting it, we’re learning to let the season be a reminder: it’s okay to pause, reflect, and recharge. Winter isn’t emptiness, it’s space to simply be, and to be together. With lots of blankets and cups of tea.
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Do you like the changing seasons?
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26/10/2024

“Inters*x is natural, diversity is beautiful, and everyone deserves the right to be themselves.”
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Today is *xAwarenessDay, a time to celebrate and support inters*x individuals while raising awareness about their experiences.
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Inters*x refers to people born with physical s*x characteristics that don’t fit typical definitions of male or female. This natural variation occurs in up to 1.7% of the population, (that’s approx the same amount of people born with red hair).
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Sadly, inters*x people often face unnecessary surgeries, stigma, and discrimination. By educating ourselves and others, we can help challenge harmful medical practices, promote bodily autonomy, and foster acceptance.
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Go to the link in our bio to listen to a podcast we previously recorded with inters*x advocate Anick to learn more.
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Let’s stand together in support of inters*x rights and visibility.
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*xAwareness *xRights *xSurgery *xAwareness *xVisibility *xRights *xSurgery
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10/10/2024

World Mental Health Day
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On this , let’s honor the unique mental health journeys of the q***r community.
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Too often, LGBTQ+ individuals face added layers of stress, from navigating societal pressures to feeling unseen in their relationships. It’s time we create more open spaces for q***r people to express their struggles, seek support, and be themselves unapologetically.
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Whether it’s the weight of coming out, relationship challenges, or dealing with rejection, our mental health matters. Let’s stand together, talk openly, and break down the stigma—because everyone deserves to feel seen, supported, and loved.
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What stigma have you been facing recently?
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18/09/2024

“The non primary parent / the non birth mum”
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Now Sutton is getting older and is becoming more and more aware. She draws more towards Tash, especially when she is feeling sick or tired. When Tash leaves the room she cries, when I (Marthe) leave the room she says “bye bye” and waves.
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Being the non birthing mum can be painful and can feed into my insecurities of not being a good mum. Of course I’m not blaming Sutton, who is acting on her instincts. There is no one to blame really.
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Someone recently called it the non primary parent, ouch. I as a mum and a woman, I would never see myself as a secondary parent, but instead share the primary with Tash. Other people call it the preferred parent.
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Even though it’s true, it hurts. I want to nurture, love and care for Sutton in the same way that Tash does. Tash has the biological connection, is breastfeeding and bed sharing, so this is not the case. This sometimes creates tension and friction between Tash and I.
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I don’t really know what I want to say with this caption. I guess I want to share the realities of my feelings as a non birthing mum.
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I know in the long run I will be just as important for Sutton as Tash. For now I will be “the fun mum” and be compassionate to myself and the situation.
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